Thursday, April 9, 2015

Blogging Struggles

I have blogged for almost two years. And I'm going through a bit of a slump. Content-wise, or the urge to post, I'm doing okay with. I still post at least once a week and I still enjoy putting posts together. It's the following that I've been struggling with. 

Can I confess something to you all?

I've been avoiding my Blogger feed. It gives me anxiety. I start to scroll through it and see all the posts I should be commenting on, and my mind starts thinking on how long that's gonna take, and I hit the exit button and run the other way. I feel terrible! 

Blogging and blog following is about building relationships with people. And I feel horrible when I know I'm missing posts from ppl that I've followed regularly for awhile. I could be missing important stuff and that's not cool.  It's also not cool to expect people to come visit me when I'm slowly growing more sporadic at visiting back. (geez, I feel like a shmuck even admitting that) 

I could list all the excuses: Time, gone, poof, evaporated like cotton candy in a warm mouth. Full-time job. One kidlet. A house that does not clean itself. Limited time in which to write at night.

Except many of you all have that too, and more, and yet here you are, still faithfully interacting online. All I can say is I'm sorry. I'm going to try and get better! I've thought about taking a break, but I don't feel like I'm quite there yet, so I'm gonna struggle on. If you're one of those who haven't seen me hanging out at your place quite as often as usual, my sincere apologies. 

Though I will say if your blog has a follow by email feature, plz let me know in the comments! I find it much easier (and less anxiety inducing) to click on a link in an email to read a post. And seeing it in my inbox reminds me that I need to go visit. You will totally be doing me a favor by letting me know. 

Okay, so here's to everyone having a fantastic Friday tomorrow, and then an even more fantastic weekend!    

50 comments:

  1. Leandra, I completely understand. Family and personal writing always comes first and life oftentimes gets in the way of things we guilt ourselves into thinking we "should" be doing. Please don't feel overwhelmed by not commenting/visiting...I know it can be daunting, I've struggled with it too. Just accept it as something that you'd like to be doing, but sometimes it's an unrealistic expectation. Don't beat yourself up about it! =)

    My blog does have an email feature, but again, no worries!! I hope you have a fabulous, restful weekend.

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    1. Thanks, Ann Marie! And, yes, email! =) And ditto on the daunting...and the guilting! =)

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  2. Don't feel too bad, Leandra! Jaime and I just ended What's Up Wednesday because we were both having difficulties making time for blogging too. There are so many other responsibilities and so little time to take care of all of them. Hope you're able to balance everything you need to do and still keep in touch with the writing community! :)

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    1. I thought I hadn't seen any WUW posts lately. You ladies did it for quite awhile, so major props to you! Yes, balance, such a hard thing to achieve. But you gotta try! =)

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  3. I hear you on this! I'm the same way. A while back I had to cull the list of blogs I followed. Yes, I felt horrible, and yes, fewer people visited my blog as a result, but the resulting peace was worth it. Some people posted every single day, and they didn't post things that interested me anymore. If you follow enough of those people, then it gets really draining.

    You have to do what is best for you. It's not personal. You should be doing the things that make you happy. Reading the things that make you happy. Interacting with people that make you happy. I realized I was holding on to some people simply to get a higher comment count. Then that didn't matter as much to me.

    My blog does have a follow by email function, but I think you're already subscribed :)

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    1. 'Resulting peace'... that sounds great! =) So much to ruminate over in this comment, thanks, Tiana!

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  4. My blog has the follow by email feature. I love that because I can stay up-to-date with my favorite blogs. Other than that, my method is to return the comment love for the people who comment on my posts.

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    1. That is a good method to follow, Kelly.

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  5. Oh, Leandra, I've been blogging for several years and I go through periods like this because it's inevitable that one feels the need for silence. I take breaks from blogging and from visiting periodically. But you are right, it is about building relationships and you'll be surprised what people are up to when you finally do go visit their blogs after a little hiatus. Have a good weekend!

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    1. It's good to know that I'm not the only one! The need for silence sums it up rather well too.

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  6. I think blogging ebbs and flows for most people. Do what is right for you now. Later things may change, but for now prioritize what is most important for you.

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  7. no worries, Leandra!! If something is giving you anxiety you have to take a step back...I learned this the hard way! As a result, prioritizing is the best thing. Now when I have the urge to do the blogging stuff, I focus on my writing instead, since that's my main priority. I love to blog and visit, but I've learned to spread it out over the course of the week so I'm not spending 2 hours a day on it. It was thanks to you I have the email subscribe thingy...you mentioned it to me ages ago on QT when I first started my blog, and I had no idea it would help alert people I posted so I had my bro install it. Take some time for you and RELAX :) you deserve it. xoxo

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    1. Yes, compacted hours of blog following is exhausting! And always distracts me from writing. And glad I could help back then! =) I enjoy seeing your posts pop up in my mailbox on Fridays!

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  8. Don't sweat it, Leandra. Do whatever feels right for you. Life gets busy for all of us at times. Hugs.

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  9. I hear you, Leandra! No need to apologize to any of us, we're all in the same boat. Blogging and commenting take up a huge amount of time. I did a guest post on another blog this week and I've been so busy replying to comments, that I've had to ignore my own blog. I do have an email feature, but don't worry about it. Better to give the kidlet an extra hug. :)

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    1. Guest posts are fun, glad to hear it was a busy one for you! And yes to extra kidlet hugs, lol!

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  10. Wow. You just put into words something I've been feeling. I have not made it a priority to read blogs lately because I've been so busy with other things and I feel bad about it. I guess we all feel this way.

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    1. It's always great to know you're not in the boat alone. =)

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  12. I understand very well,I'm the same :) So no need to apologize,it's a pleasure to read your posts :)

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  13. I understand this all too well, and I hope it's not terrible to admit that there's a little bit of comfort knowing that my blogging mentor is having a few struggles. Thank you for admitting and sharing that, but there is no need to apologize. If it's causing you anxiety, then you owe it to yourself to take a break. We'll all understand, I promise. I haven't been posting recently for similar reasons (some personal stuff going on that feels too much to blog about, but too big to ignore, which makes me just not blog at all -- not the answer, but I'm working it out). But taking a break from it and doing it without guilt has been really rewarding. And even though I follow a bunch of blogs, if I'm too stressed to enjoy them, I'll just pass. Tag the ones I want to come back to and move on. And that's okay because it has to be. This comment is getting long and rambly. But just know that you're not alone in the struggle, and that whatever you have to give is enough.

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    1. It give me warm fuzzies to be considered your blog mentor! =) Thanks for the wisdom you shared, and I hope things smooth out for you soon, Sioux.

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  14. Oh and ps, I have a follow by email option :-)

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  15. I'm right there with you, Leandra. I just can't keep up anymore. I've actually decided to dial back the blogging quite a bit. I keep up with people as best as I can through Twitter and FB. Blogging is becoming too time-consuming for me. With all the social media stuff, somethings gotta give -- I've even gotten Mac Freedom to help me focus more time on the writing. Some people seem to be able to handle all of it better -- alas, I am not one of them. I'm easily distracted and overwhelmed and need to protect my writing time. I can only do what I can do.

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    1. I always enjoyed reading your haiku, Gisele! Twitter is a great way to keep up w/ppl, and not feel so overwhelmed while doing it. I will have to track you down over there! =)

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    2. Thanks, Leandra! I will make sure to add you to my daily list on Twitter, so I don't miss your tweets. :)

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  16. Oh gosh, I feel you! This should be the last thing causing you anxiety~ everyone understands when people can't comment, etc. My commenting has gone waaaaaaaay down over the last couple of years. Don't feel bad about it at all and don't feel like you need to "get better"! You don't!

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    1. Thanks, Jessica! I'm one of those ppl when I start something, I feel the need to do it big and better and never let up! Hence, the resulting anxiety. =) It's nice to have permission not to have to try so hard.

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  17. I could have written an almost identical post, Leandra--I completely understand what you are saying. Thank you for sharing. It does help to know that other writer-bloggers have similar struggles. Give yourself Grace and the time to breathe!

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    1. Thanks, Becky! Breathing time sounds wonderful. =)

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  18. Some really great advice here from the commenters! I agree that bloggers, our community, will always be here. I find myself feeling the same guilt as you do, but what's fantastic is the ability to just easily pick right back up where you left off with your blogger friends. :) You've got a lot you're juggling and I'm right there with you! (Minus the enormous job of being a parent). Take the time you need for what's most important. We'll be here!

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    1. I have gotten wonderful advice! I was a little insecure about posting this at first, but now I'm so glad I did!

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  19. It is hard to find the time to keep up. I try to visit a couple of blogs each time I use the internet and now and again when I have time to spare I get round as many as I can. That way I might miss some posts but I don't leave anyone ot (I hope!)

    My blog has the follow by email feature.

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    1. Keeping up is perfect for describing blog following, heh. Thanks, Patsy!

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  20. Hey Leandra. I so hear you. I would have not guessed that you have any trouble because your blog is awesome! There are writers who seem to do it all - career, kids, writing and an active online presence. I have such trouble with this. I have to accept that I'm not *that* writer. I am the writer that can blog, comment and tweet every so often, and not that coherently (as evidenced by this comment!) but whenever I get down about it I remind myself: Your job is to WRITE. Everything else is gravy. Or pudding. Or, you know. Extra.

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    1. That is a great reminder! It's so easy to let social media nudge out the important thing of being a writer, which is all those words we should be getting on the paper. Everything else is just sauce, right? ;)

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  21. Oh my goodness do I hear you on this one!! I avoid my feed a lot lately and there are very few blogs I make an effort for (yours being one, because you're awesome :). But, yeah, time--I swear there's never enough! But really, writing comes first in my book. That's what I blog for in the first place, so if I'm not getting my writing in, then well, the rest doesn't matter. Or so I tell myself so I don't feel super guilty ;)

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    1. That's true, Mer! This blog is because of my writing, so if I don't do that... Good food for thought! =)

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  22. I stay away from the feeds unless I'm ready to post. Otherwise I have no time to write! I hope you find your balance soon!

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  23. Just popping over from Margo Kelly's A-Z feature spot! I think we all get like this sometimes. I tend not to post or visit if I'm overwhelmed by life or have too much going on, except for guest posts I might have already scheduled. What's the etiquette on that, by the way? I return the comments, but is the guest doing that as well? You could scale back to posting even just once a month, then you're still keeping in touch but in a more manageable way. Hope you work things out!

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    1. Thanks, Nick! And from my experience w/guest posts, it just depends on the person. Some like to comment back, other's don't. Thanks for stopping by!

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  24. You posted exactly how I feel! While I love interacting online with other writers and bloggers, it can be extremely overwhelming trying to fit it all in. I think I've become more like Emily where I only visit other blogs when I post something new. Seems to work well that way, but I do tend to miss some important announcements and cool posts. Ah, well, guess you have to pick and choose your priorities! :)

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    1. That does seem to be the price of a little sanity, missing out on some cool stuff. =( It's like can't always have your cake and eat it too! That is such a terrible saying for a food lover, lol!

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    2. Oh, and I do have a follow by email. :)

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