I have this hang-up when it comes to replying to tweets on Twitter. I will be scrolling through my feed, and see a tweet that catches my eye. I want to respond, but I always do something first. I hover over the person and read their bio.
Are they agented? Or a published writer? Or are they like me, a writer who doesn't have a book title in their bio (yet). When I see that they're an agented writer/and or published author (especially w/the Big 5), that's when I hesitate. Will they curl their nose at having someone they don't know replying to them?
Or will they just think it's nice that one of their followers is interacting w/them? Or b/c they don't know me, will they flip their hair/twirl their mustache and think: Who is she to reply to me?
Now to turn this around, when I have someone I don't know (as in I don't follow their blog, or know them from a forum, or haven't interacted w/them on social media here and there) respond to something I've shared, it OF COURSE doesn't bother me. I like that they took the time to like or reply to whatever epic wisdom I shared with the world. ;)
But I'm not any kind of fancy potato here. And I know this is where my insecurity is tripping me up.
That somewhere deep down I feel like I'm not good enough since my eight years of writing hasn't gotten me that magical 'repped by' in my bio. Or TITLE OF AMAZING BOOK HERE (name of fabuloso publishing co. here). And so without one or both of those things, I'm hesitant to interact with those people that do have that.
And I also know it's not fair to think that those agented/pubbed writers are automatically going to feel snobby about me responding to them (as isn't that why we're on social media, to grow connections and be heard?). And for the record, I've had plenty of wonderful interactions w/agented/pubbed writers. B/c they're ppl just like me, many of whom struggled for years (just like me) to get where they're at. So most days, I pluck up the courage and go ahead and say whatever I have to say to them:
Love that room!
Some days, my courage fails me, and I exit out of the reply box and slink away. Confidence, it seems, is always a work in progress. So I'm curious if any of you feel this way too? Do any of you struggle with connecting with people whom you fear (however irrationally) are better than you b/c they've already done what you're trying to do? Or am I just too danged shy and neurotic? Totally a possibility...
Also, those ppl that would flip their hair/twirl their mustache? I know they're not worth my Tweet-replyn' time.